The Honor You Podcast | Practical Tools for High Performance in Life, Careers, & Relationships Without Self-Abandonment

Outsourcing Your Life Leads To An Unrecognizable You

Episode Description 
Are you living a life that feels like it’s not entirely yours? Wondering how you got here and who you really are beneath all the external expectations?
In this reflective episode of The Honor You Podcast, host Melissa Coloton dives into the idea of “outsourcing your life” and how it can lead to an unrecognizable self. She explores why so many of us follow external pressures, from parents, society, and even technology, without checking in with our true desires. Melissa shares personal stories from her career transition, coaching sessions, and casual conversations, illustrating how losing touch with our authentic selves can happen slowly over time.
Through this episode, you’ll learn how to reconnect with yourself, honor your soul’s desires, and start “insourcing” what it is you truly want. Melissa walks you through practical steps for noticing your emotions, building a relationship with yourself, and taking action, even when your mind resists change.
Entrepreneurs, career-driven individuals, overachievers, and anyone feeling stuck or disconnected – this episode will give you tools to reclaim your life, your choices, and your joy.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
The Honor You Lab – join the waitlist to access the next cohort
My Free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
In This Episode We Talk About:
How outsourcing your choices can lead to feeling unrecognizable
Why our 30s and 40s bring deep identity questions
The role of emotions as an access point to your soul
Practical tools to start insourcing: listening, feeling, and taking action
How the mind reacts to change and how to navigate its resistance
Using natural cycles (spring, summer, fall, winter) to honor your soul’s desires without attaching expectations
Reclaiming agency in career, relationships, and life choices
 
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Facebook: Melissa Coloton
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LinkedIn: Melissa Coloton, Coach
Website: melissacoloton.com
YouTube: The Melissa Coloton Show
 
ABOUT THE HONOR YOU PODCASTHosted by Melissa Coloton, The Honor You Podcast invites you to pause, reflect, and embrace practices that let you honor your true self. Each week Melissa shares conversations and insights to help you reconnect with yourself and finally become the person you were meant to be. If you’re looking for insightful stories, practical strategies, and inspiration to honor yourself and live authentically, this podcast is your guide.
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Stay True to You: Jessica’s Inspiring Journey Through Divorce, Relocation & Reinventing Her Career

Episode Description 
On this episode of The Honor You Podcast, Melissa Coloton sits down with Jessica Graham, a personal narrative coach who helps women rewrite their stories, reclaim their power, and step into their most authentic lives. They explore the challenges of navigating toxic relationships, major life transitions, and societal expectations while honoring your true self. Jessica shares her journey from moving abroad to leaving a difficult marriage to leaving a career that did not align with her any longer to building a career aligned with her purpose, including her work in personal narrative coaching and transformational storytelling.
They also discuss how storytelling and self-reflection can help you heal, grow, and embrace personal empowerment. This episode is packed with actionable advice on overcoming shame, setting boundaries, rebuilding self-trust, and creating a life that truly reflects your values.
Who this episode is for:
Anyone feeling stuck in old patterns or limiting beliefs
People navigating life transitions or big decisions
Those looking to build self-trust and confidence
Anyone seeking practical ways to honor themselves and their journey
People ready to release past stories and step into authenticity
 
RESOURCES & SHOW NOTES
Connect with Jessica:
https://jessicagrahambrandstudio.com/
Jessica’s ReWritten Program
Melissa’s Free Resources:
Grab my freebie → Learn the Honor You Method, my story, and the basics of honoring yourself.
Sign up for the Honor You Lab Priority List
If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living on your terms → schedule your 1:1 discovery call 
Free 3-Day Challenge → Kickstart Your Journey to Finding and Doing Work You Love. 
Get my ebook → 3 Secrets To Unlocking Your Personal Purpose
 
 In This Episode, We Talk About:
How to honor yourself even in difficult circumstances
Turning shame and past trauma into tools for growth
Strategies for rebuilding self-trust and personal boundaries
Insights on navigating life transitions while staying true to who you truly are
 
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Facebook: Melissa Coloton
TikTok: @melissacoloton
LinkedIn: Melissa Coloton, Coach
Website: melissacoloton.com
YouTube: The Melissa Coloton Show
 
ABOUT THE HONOR YOU PODCASTHosted by Melissa Coloton, The Honor You Podcast invites you to pause, reflect, and embrace practices that let you honor your true self. Each week Melissa shares conversations and insights to help you reconnect with yourself and finally become the person you were meant to be. If you’re looking for insightful stories, practical strategies, and inspiration to honor yourself and live authentically, this podcast is your guide.
 

Diminishing Ourselves or Our Wins is One of the Biggest Ways We Abandon Ourselves

EPISODE INTRO
Do you ever catch yourself downplaying your accomplishments or brushing off moments when you truly honored yourself? Maybe you’re achieving milestones in your career, relationships, or personal goals, yet something still feels off. Host Melissa Coloton dives into one of the most common ways we unconsciously hold ourselves back: diminishing our wins. Learn why celebrating even small victories is essential for personal growth, confidence, and living in alignment with your authentic self. If you’re ready to stop people-pleasing, overcome self-doubt, and finally honor your emotional, mental, and spiritual needs, this episode is for you.
 
EPISODE SNAPSHOT
In this episode of The Honor You Podcast, Melissa Coloton explores how minimizing our achievements or stepping back from celebrating wins trains our brains to stay small and keeps us from living fully aligned lives. Drawing from real coaching conversations in the Honor You Lab, she shares practical strategies to stop diminishing yourself, embrace your victories, and honor your boundaries. Listeners will discover how to overcome self-doubt, stop people-pleasing, strengthen self-expression, and create a life rooted in authenticity and confidence. This episode is packed with actionable insights for high achievers, recovering people-pleasers, and anyone seeking personal growth, mindset shifts, and the tools to step fully into their purpose.
 
THIS EPISODE IS FOR
High achievers, recovering people pleasers, and anyone ready to stop minimizing their wins and start honoring their authentic self.
 
RESOURCES & SHOW NOTES
Grab my freebie → Learn the Honor You Method, my story, and the basics of honoring yourself.
Sign up for the Honor You Lab Priority List
If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living on your terms → schedule your 1:1 discovery call
Free 3-Day Challenge → Kickstart Your Journey to Finding and Doing Work You Love.
Get my ebook → 3 Secrets To Unlocking Your Personal Purpose
 
IN THIS EPISODE WE TALK ABOUT
How diminishing wins keeps you small and trains your brain to avoid celebrating
Why honoring your wins and boundaries is essential for self-expression and confidence
Practical strategies for overcoming self-doubt and people-pleasing
How to celebrate victories in everyday life to rewire your mindset
Using the Honor You Method to step fully into your authentic life
 
ABOUT THE HONOR YOU PODCASTHosted by Melissa Coloton, The Honor You Podcast invites you to pause, reflect, and embrace practices that let you honor your true self. Each week Melissa shares conversations and insights to help you reconnect with yourself and finally become the person you were meant to be.
 
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Facebook: Melissa Coloton
TikTok: @melissacoloton
LinkedIn: Melissa Coloton, Coach
Website: melissacoloton.com
Podcast: The Honor You Podcast
YouTube: The Melissa Coloton Show

How Societal Norms Keep Us From Being Who We Came Here to Be

Societal norms shape so many of our choices including marriage, career, money, family, often without us realizing it. But are these “shoulds” actually aligned with your soul’s desires? 
In this episode of The Honor You Podcast, host Melissa Coloton explores how cultural expectations can keep us from becoming who we came here to be. 
She shares why listening to your emotions is the key to self-honor, and how to lead from your higher self instead of fear. 
Through everyday examples and reflections, this episode offers guidance on shifting from following the rules to creating a fulfilling, authentic life.
 
👉 Click here to get your free 3-day challenge and start honoring yourself today!
 
👉 Get on the priority waitlist for the next session of The Honor You Lab
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👉 If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living on your terms, Let’s connect 1:1—schedule your discovery call here.
 
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Website: https://melissacoloton.com/

Why You Stay Stuck in Cycles You Know Aren't Serving You

In this week’s episode of The Honor You Podcast, host Melissa Coloton examines a pattern most of us know too well: getting stuck in cycles that don’t serve us, even when we’re aware of them. Whether it’s overworking, reaching for sugar, pouring a nightly drink, skipping exercise, or falling into patterns that affect personal or work interactions, Melissa explores why we repeat behaviors that keep us stuck and what it really takes to shift them.
Melissa also shares practical strategies to connect with your higher self, change the small choices that reinforce these cycles, and take baby steps toward lasting change. She explains how recognizing the influence of your mind, body, and soul, and understanding your connection to a higher power, can help you move beyond self-limiting behaviors. Throughout the conversation, she ties it all back to The Honor You Method, showing how this framework can guide you in honoring yourself, creating healthier habits, and designing a life that feels aligned and fulfilling.
Whether your challenges feel light or heavy, this episode offers insights, tools, and encouragement to break free from cycles that keep you stuck and start living in alignment with your higher self.
 
Get on the priority waitlist for the next session of The Honor You Lab
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The Major Thing Missing When You're Triggered

In this week’s episode of The Honor You Podcast, host Melissa Coloton explores why being triggered is not a setback but a powerful opportunity to honor yourself and grow. Instead of avoiding those uncomfortable moments, she invites you to see them as signals that point to where healing, boundaries, and self honoring are needed.
Melissa shares real-life examples from work, relationships, and everyday life, showing how emotional triggers can signal opportunities for self reflection and personal growth. She also dives into why it’s normal to get triggered over the same things again and again, and how to respond in a way that honors yourself instead of adding shame or frustration.
Melissa will guide you through noticing the activation, asking what really bothers you, identifying what you need, and following through to meet those needs in healthy ways.
Whether you’re navigating work stress, relationships, or everyday frustrations, this conversation offers a different way to look at triggers and the chance to approach them with curiosity and clarity.
Get on the priority waitlist for the next session of The Honor You Lab
👉The Honor You Lab Priority Waitlist
 
Let’s connect!
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Website: https://melissacoloton.com/

Not Honoring Yourself: How fearing selfishness can keep you from what you want in life

Have you ever wondered if putting yourself first is selfish, or if it’s actually the key to living with more balance and authenticity? In this episode of The Honor You Podcast, host Melissa Coloton explores what happens when we don’t honor ourselves, why honoring your needs isn’t selfish, and how small shifts can help you avoid burnout, whether in family life, corporate spaces, or personal growth.
Melissa explains:
The difference between selfishness and honoring yourself
Creating boundaries that support your overall well-being
Overcoming burnout and people-pleasing tendencies
Building self-leadership and alignment in your life
Melissa also shares how these ideas connect to The Honor You Method, offering a framework for living a life that is the most authentically you.
Get on the priority waitlist for the next session of The Honor You Lab
👉The Honor You Lab Priority Waitlist
 
Let’s connect!
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Website: https://melissacoloton.com/

The Importance of Honoring Yourself and Last Chance Call for The Lab

Ah, burnout. It doesn’t happen overnight, it builds. In this mini episode of The Honor You Podcast, host Melissa Coloton shares how she recognized the signs in herself during an intense season launching The Honor You Lab and made the choice to pause, reset, and protect her energy but following her Honor You Method.
Melissa shares how to:
Recognize early burnout symptoms
Use self-care as a boundary, not a backup plan
Step back and reset without guilt
She also shares why this week is the final opportunity to join The Honor You Lab beta launch and secure the founder’s price.
If you’re ready to live with more purpose and fulfillment, here’s your invitation to join the Honor You Lab beta launch. Lock in the founder’s price before it’s gone on Friday, August 15th. As a thank-you for being a podcast listener, use code POD50 to take $50 off the launch price.
Sign up here for The Honor You Lab Beta
👉  https://melissacoloton.com/honor-you-course/
 
Let’s connect!
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Website: https://melissacoloton.com/

The Self-Help Tactic Nobody Is Talking About

In this episode of The Honor You Podcast, Melissa discusses an often-overlooked idea in self-help: radical self-acceptance. Prompted by a conversation with a friend facing repeated business setbacks, she reflects on how unprocessed experiences can lead to patterns that typical self-improvement strategies don’t always address.
She also shares her own experience with anxiety and how focusing on constant self-fixing wasn’t effective. 
Melissa explores:
How the mind maintains patterns of "not enough"
The importance of understanding how your mind works
Why radical self-acceptance is key to lasting change
The difference between short-term fixes and deeper processing
Melissa offers a grounded take on why accepting yourself as you are can be a more effective starting point than always striving to improve.
 
Sign up here for The Honor You Lab Beta - only a few spots remaining! 
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If you’d like a discount coupon for the lab or need to split it into a few payments, please email me at info@melissacoloton.com
 
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The Truth About Fulfillment: How To Choose Yourself and Parent Your Mind, Body, and Soul

In this bonus episode of the Honor You Podcast, host Melissa Coloton sits down with Acupuncturist and Personal Development Coach, Dr. Adam Gries, to unpack what fulfillment really looks like and why choosing yourself can be harder (and more important) than it sounds.
They discuss how anxiety shows up in everyday life, how Dr. Gries’s own experiences shaped his approach to healing, and why chasing success doesn’t always lead to peace of mind. You’ll hear honest reflections on managing stress, navigating chronic pain, and learning to parent your mind, body, and soul in a practical way.
If you're curious about personal growth, feeling stuck, or looking for tools to move through anxiety, this conversation offers insight, clarity, and support. Melissa also talks about the launch of her The Honor You Lab, her new course for anyone ready to do the inner work to create lasting change and fulfillment.
 
To learn more about Dr. Gries: https://awakeningshealth.com/
 
Sign up here for The Honor You Lab Beta:
👉  https://melissacoloton.com/honor-you-course/
 
Let’s connect!
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissacoloton
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Website: https://melissacoloton.com/