The Honor You Podcast | Practical Tools for High Performance in Life, Careers, & Relationships Without Self-Abandonment

Am I Unsafe or Just Uncomfortable?: A Conversation with April Martini

In this episode, Melissa sits down with advisor and speaker April Martini for a conversation about authenticity, trauma, resilience, nervous system regulation, and learning to respond differently when life feels overwhelming.
April shares her journey from growing up in an abusive home to serving in the Army, leading in corporate America, and ultimately becoming an entrepreneur who helps women navigate life's hardest moments with authenticity and courage.
Together, Melissa and April explore how childhood experiences shape our adult reactions, why healing isn't about eliminating trauma responses, and one simple question that can help you move through fear with greater confidence.
Whether you're navigating relationships, leadership, entrepreneurship, or everyday stress, this episode offers practical tools to help you pause, regulate your nervous system, and respond from a place of awareness instead of survival.
In this episode, Melissa and April discuss:
How childhood trauma shapes adult patterns and relationships
Why healing isn't about "fixing" yourself—it's about building new tools
Practical ways to regulate your nervous system in stressful moments
How to identify trauma responses before they spiral
How vulnerability and authenticity build resilience
Why entrepreneurship requires learning to tolerate healthy discomfort
Listen if you:
Wonder why certain situations trigger strong emotional reactions
Feel stuck in patterns of anxiety, fear, or self-doubt
Want practical nervous system tools you can use immediately
Struggle to know when to push through discomfort—and when to step away
Are building a business or career that continually stretches you
 
About Guest April Martini
April Martini spent 18 years building other people's visions before she built her own. A U.S. Army veteran, she spent nearly two decades in corporate leadership before walking away in January 2025 to do the work she was actually built for.
She didn't arrive at this work from theory. April grew up in an abusive household and spent much of her 20s making decisions from survival mode without knowing that's what it was. Years of her own deep personal growth work later taught her what it actually takes to stop performing and start leading from who you really are.
Now a certified life coach, keynote speaker, and author, April helps leaders and high-achieving women make that same shift. Her TEDx talk, "The Risk of Being Unknown," lays out the cost of staying hidden, even when hidden looks like success. She's the creator of The Martini Method, a five-part framework for doing that work yourself.
April’s LINKS:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/apriltmartini/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aprilmartini/
Website: www.aprilmartini.com
TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/6LXo9jclch0?si=Wbm71zjgL_c2kziT
This episode is for:
Women navigating personal growth and healing
Entrepreneurs learning to embrace discomfort
Leaders who want to respond instead of react
Anyone interested in trauma-informed personal development
Anyone who wants to build resilience without sacrificing themselves
People ready to stop living in survival mode
And…if you’re ready to explore a life of Aligned Success, Click here to book a free 1-hour consultation with Melissa.
Melissa’s Additional Resources To Help Get You Started:
Take my Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself? and receive a free 7-day targeted action plan to get started
My free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
The Honor You Course: If you're ready to take your next step toward aligned success, I'm excited to share that the ​self-paced version of The Honor You Lab i​s now open! The Honor You Lab is a 6‑week transformational reset designed for professionals who know there has to be a better way than burnout, survival, and autopilot success. Inside the Lab you’ll find structured audio lessons, activities, and prompts to help you develop a new internal framework that helps you reset, reconnect with yourself, and live life according to your needs, not external expectations.
Let’s connect!
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Website: melissacoloton.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: @melissacoloton
YouTube: @melissacolotonshow
About The Honor You Podcast
The Honor You Podcast explores personal growth, purpose, identity, and what it means to honor who you are becoming, without burnout, shame, or hustle culture.
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, the show blends reflection, insight, and practical tools through the framework of The Honor You Method, offering grounded guidance for navigating transitions, leadership, and aligned decision-making.
Each episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and make intentional choices rooted in your values, your season, and your well-being.
This isn’t about fixing yourself.It’s about honoring yourself, one aligned step at a time.

Steps to Navigating Your Personal Purpose Journey

In this episode, Melissa discusses how we are overcomplicating the idea of “finding our purpose.” She breaks down why so many of us get stuck, whether we’re in the camp that desperately wants to live a purposeful life or the camp that feels like purpose is some unrealistic luxury.
Melissa explores the generational shift happening right now, how old expectations collide with new freedoms, and why so many people feel torn between wanting a meaningful life and feeling like they don’t have permission to pursue it. She talks about the real reasons people end up confused, bitter, or frozen, and provides actionable steps if you’ve spent years saying, “I don’t know what I want.”
You’ll hear her simple definition of purpose (and why it’s way simpler than you think), along with the three steps she believes are essential for a purposeful life. Melissa also shares a personal example that shows what it looks like to follow the small stirrings of your soul..
This episode is an invitation to take the pressure off, reconnect with yourself, and remember that purpose isn’t a job title, it’s listening to and honoring what your soul wants, one action at a time.
 
This episode is for:
Anyone who feels a quiet tug toward something they haven’t acted on yet
People who worry they’ll look back someday wishing they’d done things differently
High achievers who follow expectations but feel disconnected from what they actually want
Anyone afraid of disappointing others or being judged for honoring themselves
Those curious about what their soul is nudging them toward, what’s getting in the way, and how to move forward
And…if you’re ready to explore a life of Aligned Success, Click here to book a free 1-hour consultation with Melissa.
In This Episode, We Talk About
Different reasons people may get stuck in “finding” their purpose
How to notice what truly matters to you
Ways to take meaningful action in your life
How to reflect, learn, and adjust as you go
Resources To Help Get You Started:
Take my Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself? and receive a free 7-day targeted action plan to get started
My free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
The Honor You Course: If you're ready to take your next step toward aligned success, I'm excited to share that the ​self-paced version of The Honor You Lab i​s now open! The Honor You Lab is a 6‑week transformational reset designed for professionals who know there has to be a better way than burnout, survival, and autopilot success. Inside the Lab you’ll find structured audio lessons, activities, and prompts to help you develop a new internal framework that helps you reset, reconnect with yourself, and live life according to your needs, not external expectations.
 
Let’s connect!
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Website: melissacoloton.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: @melissacoloton
YouTube: @melissacolotonshow
About The Honor You Podcast
The Honor You Podcast explores personal growth, purpose, identity, and what it means to honor who you are becoming, without burnout, shame, or hustle culture.
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, the show blends reflection, insight, and practical tools through the framework of The Honor You Method, offering grounded guidance for navigating transitions, leadership, and aligned decision-making.
Each episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and make intentional choices rooted in your values, your season, and your well-being.
This isn’t about fixing yourself.It’s about honoring yourself, one aligned step at a time.
 

Is Attachment to the Outcome Getting in the Way of Your Dreams?

What if the thing standing between you and the life you want isn't a lack of talent, motivation, or opportunity, but your attachment to the outcome itself?
In this week’s episode, Melissa shares how deeply wanting something can sometimes create the very resistance that keeps us from fully pursuing it. She unpacks the subtle ways fear of failure, perfectionism, and emotional attachment can show up as procrastination, overthinking, self-doubt, and playing small, even when we genuinely want to move forward.
Melissa also offers practical ways to recognize when you're "pushing the gas and the brake at the same time," along with a powerful perspective shift that can help you stop gripping so tightly and start trusting yourself more. Whether you're building a business, navigating a career transition, pursuing a relationship, or chasing a long-held dream, this conversation will help you approach your goals with greater confidence, alignment, and freedom.
Listen if:
You have a goal or dream that feels deeply important to you
You keep starting and stopping instead of fully committing
You're afraid of failing at something you really care about
You find yourself overthinking every step or outcome
And…if you’re ready to explore a life of Aligned Success, Click here to book a free 1-hour consultation with Melissa.
This Episode Is For:
People navigating career changes or personal growth
Anyone struggling with perfectionism or fear of failure
Those who are ready to stop holding themselves back and start moving forward with more trust and confidence
Entrepreneurs and business owners
Resources To Help Get You Started:
Take my Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself? and receive a free 7-day targeted action plan to get started
My free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
The Honor You Course: If you're ready to take your next step toward aligned success, I'm excited to share that the ​self-paced version of The Honor You Lab i​s now open! The Honor You Lab is a 6‑week transformational reset designed for professionals who know there has to be a better way than burnout, survival, and autopilot success. Inside the Lab you’ll find structured audio lessons, activities, and prompts to help you develop a new internal framework that helps you reset, reconnect with yourself, and live life according to your needs, not external expectations.
 
Let’s connect!
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Website: melissacoloton.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: @melissacoloton
YouTube: @melissacolotonshow
About The Honor You Podcast
The Honor You Podcast explores personal growth, purpose, identity, and what it means to honor who you are becoming, without burnout, shame, or hustle culture.
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, the show blends reflection, insight, and practical tools through the framework of The Honor You Method, offering grounded guidance for navigating transitions, leadership, and aligned decision-making.
Each episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and make intentional choices rooted in your values, your season, and your well-being.
This isn’t about fixing yourself.It’s about honoring yourself, one aligned step at a time.

Is It Burnout or Is It Trauma?

In this episode, Melissa explores a question that shifted the way she understands her own experience after leaving corporate leadership and building her coaching business: Was it really burnout, or was it trauma?
After spending years believing she was recovering from burnout, Melissa shares how a recent realization uncovered something deeper. Through personal reflection, self-coaching, and honest examination, she discovered that what she had labeled as burnout may have actually been more along the lines of trauma as a result of prolonged exposure to workplace bullying, fear, and chronic stress.
Melissa discusses the difference between burnout and trauma, how unresolved experiences can quietly influence our willingness to pursue new goals, and why understanding the root cause matters in how you approach moving forward. 
In This Episode, Melissa shares:
Key differences between burnout and trauma
Why fear from past experiences can hold you back from pursuing future goals
How trauma can disguise itself as caution, hesitation, or perfectionism
Listen If:
You keep telling yourself you're burned out, but rest doesn't seem to help
A difficult work experience still affects your confidence today
You're struggling to fully commit to a goal, dream, business, or next chapter
You feel like you're pushing the gas and brake at the same time
And…if you’re ready to explore a life of Aligned Success, Click here to book a free 1-hour consultation with Melissa.
This Episode Is For People Who:
Professionals recovering from toxic work environments
Entrepreneurs building something meaningful after corporate life
Anyone carrying emotional residue from past experiences
Resources To Help Get You Started:
Take my Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself? and receive a free 7-day targeted action plan to get started
My free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
The Honor You Course: If you're ready to take your next step toward aligned success, I'm excited to share that the ​self-paced version of The Honor You Lab i​s now open! The Honor You Lab is a 6‑week transformational reset designed for professionals who know there has to be a better way than burnout, survival, and autopilot success. Inside the Lab you’ll find structured audio lessons, activities, and prompts to help you develop a new internal framework that helps you reset, reconnect with yourself, and live life according to your needs, not external expectations.
 
Let’s connect!
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Website: melissacoloton.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: @melissacoloton
YouTube: @melissacolotonshow
About The Honor You Podcast
The Honor You Podcast explores personal growth, purpose, identity, and what it means to honor who you are becoming, without burnout, shame, or hustle culture.
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, the show blends reflection, insight, and practical tools through the framework of The Honor You Method, offering grounded guidance for navigating transitions, leadership, and aligned decision-making.
Each episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and make intentional choices rooted in your values, your season, and your well-being.
This isn’t about fixing yourself.It’s about honoring yourself, one aligned step at a time.

The Major Thing Missing in You Being Able to Reach Your Goals and Why You Need This Particular Skill to Get Anything in Life

Podcast Description:
In this episode, Melissa explores one of the most overlooked factors in achieving your goals: identifying what you're truly willing—and unwilling—to do to create the life you want.
Whether you're building a business, pursuing a personal dream, improving your health, or stepping into a bigger version of yourself, there often comes a point where excitement fades and resistance takes over. Melissa shares a simple but powerful exercise that helps uncover the hidden beliefs, fears, and assumptions keeping you stuck.
Drawing from her own journey as an entrepreneur and thought leader, she walks through how this practice helped her identify subconscious fears around burnout, visibility, and success, and how shifting those patterns created new momentum.
If you've ever wondered why you keep getting in your own way despite knowing what your soul wants, this episode offers a way to look at what's happening beneath the surface and move forward with more intention.
Listen If:
You have a goal that feels important but you can't seem to make progress on it
You start strong but lose momentum somewhere in the middle
You feel frustrated with yourself for procrastinating or staying stuck
You're navigating a career change, business growth, or personal transformation
You want to understand how fear, safety, and self-sabotage affect decision-making
And…if you’re ready to explore a life of Aligned Success, Click here to book a free 1-hour consultation with Melissa.
This Episode Is For People Who:
Know there's something they want but can't figure out why they're hesitating
Are tired of setting goals that never seem to stick
Want to stop letting fear quietly run the show
Are building a business, pursuing a dream, or stepping into a new season of life
Want practical mindset tools without toxic positivity or hustle culture
Resources To Help Get You Started:
Take my Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself? and receive a free 7-day targeted action plan to get started
My free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
The Honor You Course: If you're ready to take your next step toward aligned success, I'm excited to share that the ​self-paced version of The Honor You Lab i​s now open! The Honor You Lab is a 6‑week transformational reset designed for professionals who know there has to be a better way than burnout, survival, and autopilot success. Inside the Lab you’ll find structured audio lessons, activities, and prompts to help you develop a new internal framework that helps you reset, reconnect with yourself, and live life according to your needs, not external expectations.
Let’s connect!
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Website: melissacoloton.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: @melissacoloton
YouTube: @melissacolotonshow
About The Honor You Podcast
The Honor You Podcast explores personal growth, purpose, identity, and what it means to honor who you are becoming, without burnout, shame, or hustle culture.
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, the show blends reflection, insight, and practical tools through the framework of The Honor You Method, offering grounded guidance for navigating transitions, leadership, and aligned decision-making.
Each episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and make intentional choices rooted in your values, your season, and your well-being.
This isn’t about fixing yourself.It’s about honoring yourself, one aligned step at a time.

Inner Work, Embodiment, and the Practice of Honoring Yourself: A Conversation with Candice Van Dertholen

In this episode, Melissa sits down with Candice Van Dertholen for a conversation on inner work, embodiment, and sustainable success.
Together, they explore why we often fall into the cycle of constantly chasing the next goal instead of feeling present with what we’ve already created and are currently experiencing. They unpack the connection between inner work, self-worth, and long-term success, and how internal alignment directly impacts external results.
This episode also highlights how past challenges and life experiences can become powerful strengths when reframed through self-awareness and personal growth. Melissa and Candice discuss the growing pains of entrepreneurship and personal development, especially during seasons of expansion, overwhelm, and identity shifts.
Listeners will also walk away with insights on how to reconnect with abundance, gratitude, and presence—especially when life feels busy, uncertain, or emotionally heavy.
Listen in as Melissa and Candice discuss:
Why we constantly chase the next achievement instead of appreciating where we are
The connection between inner work, self-worth, and sustainable success
How past challenges can become your greatest gifts and strengths
The growing pains that often accompany personal and professional growth
Practical ways to reconnect with abundance, gratitude, and presence
Listen if:
You're always waiting for the next milestone before allowing yourself to feel successful
You're experiencing overwhelm, burnout, or emotional exhaustion
You struggle with guilt when life is going well but still feels hard
You're navigating a season of personal or business growth
You're ready to reconnect with yourself and live more intentionally
And…if you’re ready to explore a life of Aligned Success, Click here to book a free 1-hour consultation with Melissa.
More about Candice:
Candice Van Dertholen is a Speaker, Retreat Facilitator, and Private Advisor to conscious business owners. She is the founder of The Warrior Within Healing and brings over 20 years of experience across leadership, small business development, and wellness.
Her work centers on root-cause healing, supporting both emerging healers and purpose-driven entrepreneurs in rebuilding inner trust, strengthening clarity, and expanding their businesses with intention. Candice integrates embodiment and nervous system regulation as the foundation, then guides clients into aligned, sustainable growth strategies that support long-term success.
She also serves as Vice President of HR-4U Inc. and leads the virtual chapter for Military Spouse Chamber of Commerce initiatives.
LINKSBooking Site:  https://heal.me/candice
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/candicevandertholen
Instagram: https://instagram.com/candice_elizabeth.co
 
This Episode Is For People Who Are:
ready to actually feel present and grounded
successful on paper but still feel like something is missing and can’t shake the “is this it?” feeling
tired of chasing the next goal, milestone, or achievement just to feel okay for five minutes
deep in personal growth or entrepreneurship and secretly feel overwhelmed, burnt out, or stretched too thin
 
Resources To Help Get You Started:
Take my Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself? and receive a free 7-day targeted action plan to get started
My free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
The Honor You Course: If you're ready to take your next step toward aligned success, I'm excited to share that the ​self-paced version of The Honor You Lab i​s now open! The Honor You Lab is a 6‑week transformational reset designed for professionals who know there has to be a better way than burnout, survival, and autopilot success. Inside the Lab you’ll find structured audio lessons, activities, and prompts to help you develop a new internal framework that helps you reset, reconnect with yourself, and live life according to your needs, not external expectations.
Let’s connect!
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Website: melissacoloton.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: @melissacoloton
YouTube: @melissacolotonshow
About The Honor You Podcast
The Honor You Podcast explores personal growth, purpose, identity, and what it means to honor who you are becoming, without burnout, shame, or hustle culture.
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, the show blends reflection, insight, and practical tools through the framework of The Honor You Method, offering grounded guidance for navigating transitions, leadership, and aligned decision-making.
Each episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and make intentional choices rooted in your values, your season, and your well-being.
This isn’t about fixing yourself.It’s about honoring yourself, one aligned step at a time.

Part 2 Why It’s Important To Do What You Want and How To Stop Procrastinating

In this week’s episode, Melissa continues her two-part series on procrastination and purpose, diving deeper into what actually keeps us stuck when we know we want something different for our lives. She unpacks why procrastination is rarely about laziness, and more often about fear, uncertainty, overthinking, and not fully deciding what we’re willing to experience in order to grow. 
This conversation bridges the gap between insight and action, exploring how analysis paralysis shows up, why “just take action” isn’t always enough on its own, and how building awareness around your internal resistance can completely shift your ability to move forward. She also shares a more grounded framework for working with your mind, making decisions, and starting before everything feels perfectly clear.
Listen here for Part 1
In Part 2, Melissa Discusses:
Why procrastination is often rooted in fear and uncertainty
How analysis paralysis keeps you from taking consistent action
Why clarity comes through starting, not waiting
The importance of understanding what you’re willing to experience
Listen if:
You feel stuck between knowing and doing
You tend to overthink your next steps
You struggle to start without a perfect plan
You keep delaying something you actually want
And…if you’re ready to explore a life of Aligned Success, Click here to book a free 1-hour consultation with Melissa.
This Episode Is For:
Entrepreneurs and creators building something new
High achievers in transition or reinvention
People craving more alignment and direction
Anyone ready to move from stuck to in motion
Resources To Help Get You Started:
Take my Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself? and receive a free 7-day targeted action plan to get started
My free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
The Honor You Course: If you're ready to take your next step toward aligned success, I'm excited to share that the ​self-paced version of The Honor You Lab i​s now open! The Honor You Lab is a 6‑week transformational reset designed for professionals who know there has to be a better way than burnout, survival, and autopilot success. Inside the Lab you’ll find structured audio lessons, activities, and prompts to help you develop a new internal framework that helps you reset, reconnect with yourself, and live life according to your needs, not external expectations.
Let’s connect!
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Website: melissacoloton.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: @melissacoloton
YouTube: @melissacolotonshow
About The Honor You Podcast
The Honor You Podcast explores personal growth, purpose, identity, and what it means to honor who you are becoming, without burnout, shame, or hustle culture.
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, the show blends reflection, insight, and practical tools through the framework of The Honor You Method, offering grounded guidance for navigating transitions, leadership, and aligned decision-making.
Each episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and make intentional choices rooted in your values, your season, and your well-being.
This isn’t about fixing yourself.It’s about honoring yourself, one aligned step at a time.

Part 1: Why It’s Important To Do What You Want and How To Stop Procrastinating

In the first of a 2-part series, Melissa discusses procrastination through a deeper lens — not just as a productivity issue, but as a disconnect between what you truly desire and the action you’re willing to take. She shares why putting off the things you genuinely want can leave you exhausted, out of alignment, resentful, and disconnected from your purpose.
Melissa also explores the connection between soul desires, emotional stress, anxiety, alignment, and fulfillment, while setting the stage for part two of this series on how to actually stop procrastinating and start moving forward.
In Part 1, Melissa Discusses:
Why procrastination is often tied to fear, misalignment, and emotional exhaustion
How ignoring your desires can create stress symptoms like anxiety and agitation
How to recognize when your life is out of alignment
Why regret and resentment build when you keep putting off what matters to you
Why your mind both pushes you toward change and resists it at the same time
The difference between temporary discomfort and deep fulfillment
Listen If:
You keep putting off something you deeply want to do
You feel mentally exhausted from constantly “thinking about” making changes
You’re craving more alignment, peace, or fulfillment in your life
You’ve been ignoring a dream, goal, or desire that keeps resurfacing
You want a more purpose-driven and intentional life
And…if you’re ready to explore a life of Aligned Success, Click here to book a free 1-hour consultation with Melissa.
This Episode Is For:
Anyone who feels disconnected from themselves
People navigating burnout, anxiety, or feeling stuck
Anyone struggling with procrastination or overthinking
Entrepreneurs, leaders, or professionals craving more alignment
Listeners interested in purpose, personal growth, and honoring themselves
Resources To Help Get You Started:
Take my Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself? and receive a free 7-day targeted action plan to get started
My free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
The Honor You Course: If you're ready to take your next step toward aligned success, I'm excited to share that the ​self-paced version of The Honor You Lab i​s now open! The Honor You Lab is a 6‑week transformational reset designed for professionals who know there has to be a better way than burnout, survival, and autopilot success. Inside the Lab you’ll find structured audio lessons, activities, and prompts to help you develop a new internal framework that helps you reset, reconnect with yourself, and live life according to your needs, not external expectations.
Let’s connect!
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Website: melissacoloton.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: @melissacoloton
YouTube: @melissacolotonshow
About The Honor You Podcast
The Honor You Podcast explores personal growth, purpose, identity, and what it means to honor who you are becoming, without burnout, shame, or hustle culture.
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, the show blends reflection, insight, and practical tools through the framework of The Honor You Method, offering grounded guidance for navigating transitions, leadership, and aligned decision-making.
Each episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and make intentional choices rooted in your values, your season, and your well-being.
This isn’t about fixing yourself.It’s about honoring yourself, one aligned step at a time.

Encore Episode: How To Honor Yourself as a Mother

In honor of Mother's Day, we are bringing back a fan favorite episode of the Honor You Podcast. Melissa say down with a very special guest, her mom, for a conversation about motherhood, fear, big life decisions, and what it actually looks like to honor yourself as a mother.
Together, they talked about becoming a mom at a young age, raising a family while still figuring yourself out, making difficult decisions that other people may not understand, and learning to trust your inner knowing instead of outside expectations.
Melissa’s mom shares how she eventually realized she wanted more out of life — more freedom, more fulfillment, more time with family, and more alignment with who she truly was. From moving away from their hometown to starting her own business later in life, this conversation explores what can happen when you stop living from fear and start listening to your soul instead.
This episode is honest, grounded, emotional at times, and a reminder that living your purpose and honoring yourself doesn’t always look neat or comfortable. Sometimes it looks like making the hard decision, trusting yourself anyway, and creating a life that actually feels aligned.
In this episode, Melissa and her mom discuss…
What it means to honor yourself as a mom, wife, and woman
Learning to trust your soul instead of outside expectations
Making scary life decisions that ultimately led to more alignment and fulfillment
Starting over, starting a business, and creating a life that felt more purposeful
Why happiness, peace, and alignment matter just as much as responsibility
And…if you’re ready to explore a life of Aligned Success, Click here to book a free 1-hour consultation with Melissa.
Listen if…
You’ve been overthinking a major life or career decision
Fear has been keeping you from making a change
You know you want more, but aren’t sure how to trust yourself yet
You’re trying to reconnect with your intuition and inner knowing
You enjoy honest conversations about purpose, alignment, growth, and family
Resources To Help Get You Started:
Take my Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself? and receive a free 7-day targeted action plan to get started
My free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
The Honor You Course: If you're ready to take your next step toward aligned success, I'm excited to share that the ​self-paced version of The Honor You Lab i​s now open! The Honor You Lab is a 6‑week transformational reset designed for professionals who know there has to be a better way than burnout, survival, and autopilot success. Inside the Lab you’ll find structured audio lessons, activities, and prompts to help you develop a new internal framework that helps you reset, reconnect with yourself, and live life according to your needs, not external expectations.
This episode is for people who…
have been feeling disconnected from yourself or your purpose
are craving a more aligned, fulfilling life 
struggle with guilt around prioritizing your happiness
feel like their soul is calling them toward something different
are trying to figure out what honoring yourself actually looks like in real life
Let’s connect!
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Website: melissacoloton.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: @melissacoloton
YouTube: @melissacolotonshow
About The Honor You Podcast
The Honor You Podcast explores personal growth, purpose, identity, and what it means to honor who you are becoming, without burnout, shame, or hustle culture.
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, the show blends reflection, insight, and practical tools through the framework of The Honor You Method, offering grounded guidance for navigating transitions, leadership, and aligned decision-making.
Each episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and make intentional choices rooted in your values, your season, and your well-being.
This isn’t about fixing yourself.It’s about honoring yourself, one aligned step at a time.

Open Share: An honest conversation about honoring myself, self coaching, embodiment, and the IRL experiences of chasing a dream

In this episode, Melissa shares a real, behind-the-scenes look at what she’s navigating in this current season of life and business, specifically around self coaching, honoring yourself, and finally going all in on what you truly want.
She opens up about the fear, resistance, and mindset patterns that show up when you pursue something that deeply matters, and shares how she’s learning to work with her mind instead of against it.
This is an honest, in-the-moment conversation about what it actually looks like to embody personal growth, not just intellectualize it.
In this episode, Melissa discusses:
What self coaching actually looks like in real life (not just theory)
Why you might not be following through on what you truly want
How to identify and shift limiting beliefs that are shaping your results
Using your mind as a tool instead of feeling controlled by it
Listen if:
You feel stuck between what you want and what you’re actually doing
You keep starting and stopping on something that matters to you
You’re navigating fear, doubt, or visibility in business or life
You want practical ways to self coach and shift your mindset
You’re craving a more aligned, fulfilling version of success
And…if you’re ready to explore a life of Aligned Success, Click here to book a free 1-hour consultation with Melissa.
 
Mentioned in this Episode:
Rewritten with Jessica Graham
Stacey Boehman’s 2K for 2K
Mediation with Jenni Wedmore Priority List
Melissa's Resources To Help Get You Started:
Take my Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself? and receive a free 7-day targeted action plan to get started
My free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
The Honor You Course: If you're ready to take your next step toward aligned success, I'm excited to share that the ​self-paced version of The Honor You Lab i​s now open! The Honor You Lab is a 6‑week transformational reset designed for professionals who know there has to be a better way than burnout, survival, and autopilot success. Inside the Lab you’ll find structured audio lessons, activities, and prompts to help you develop a new internal framework that helps you reset, reconnect with yourself, and live life according to your needs, not external expectations.
This episode is for:
Entrepreneurs and sales professionals seeking aligned success
High achievers who feel successful on paper but disconnected internally
Anyone working on mindset, self coaching, or personal growth
People ready to stop overthinking and start working with their mind intentionally
Let’s connect!
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Website: melissacoloton.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
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TikTok: @melissacoloton
YouTube: @melissacolotonshow
About The Honor You Podcast
The Honor You Podcast explores personal growth, purpose, identity, and what it means to honor who you are becoming, without burnout, shame, or hustle culture.
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, the show blends reflection, insight, and practical tools through the framework of The Honor You Method, offering grounded guidance for navigating transitions, leadership, and aligned decision-making.
Each episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and make intentional choices rooted in your values, your season, and your well-being.
This isn’t about fixing yourself.It’s about honoring yourself, one aligned step at a time.